On Being True to Yourself, Authenticity & Why it Matters
A little bit different today for my Monday blogs & podcast show. But, an important one. So many of you have loved the Tidbit Thursday format, so I thought I'd share a similar format that was a tad bit longer on Monday! Motivation and being true to ourselves amidst the craziness in today's World is something we all struggle with - I hope today's episode and blog shed some light on why it's the most important thing you could do for yourself, others, society and at large, the World.
Full transcript of today's show
Now, I don't know you personally, but what I do know is that you have a fire burning inside that maybe you've tried to put out one too many times. I do know that your soul will never stop echoing what it knows to be right for you. And I do know that it's not all about the hustle and more about alignment before the hustle.
I know too, that you have a dream or maybe that you had one. That you too, have a calling, have interests, hobbies, loves passions, desires, hopes and aspirations that you may have been putting off for a while now. Here's the truth, though: if you keep denying it, you'll grow restless, bitter, resentful, and regretful as life passes you by. Please wake up and see it for what it is.
Your soul will never let you rest. It will never let you forget what you've lost. And, think of all the lives you leave behind the paths you didn't choose to walk down. Think of all the times and memories and moments that haven't even been born yet. I'm here to tell you to rekindle that fire that once was blazing in you, when you were a child.
Be like a child again. Because, children don't have inhibition. They don't see boundaries. They just are and they just do. As we grow older...we get sucked into society's spell. The spell that things need to be a certain way, that we need to go to school, get married, have kids, work, retire and then...die. Is that really all there is to life, though?
It's your time to take the blinders off and remember what it was like when there was that sense of magic in your eyes. Now I don't know all the answers. I'm no sage at all, but I pay attention and observe and imbue meaning into things because things aren't meaningful in and of themselves.
They're meaningful because of the meaning you place upon them. There's always a million and one ways to see things and you are what you perceive yourself as. So don't let adulthood or age limit your aspirations. Don't let others or your current situations limit what you could be and don't ever let your small or humble beginnings tell you what the ending will be. Because truly, what could be is what you choose it to be and what you choose to do day in and day out. We have a choice every day and our days are our lives essentially because our lives are just a multitude of days. We always think it's going to be so hard to start my own business, to quit this job, to leave this relationship...whatever it may be for you - to have that conversation, because I'm good and that's safe and secure.
To just walk away from how far I've gotten in school or, to just start something new or do something completely different. To make a switch, to ask for the promotion, to move away to different place and start new.
But you know what's harder? Living a life that's not authentic to you.
I know you've seen this. You cross people's paths who play victim, who are bitter, who always think the world is against them, who think they're alone, that nobody gets them, nobody understands them, that nobody could possibly even begin to fathom what they've been through. They walk around almost dead or empty inside. They use their past as a scapegoat or excuse as to why they haven't begun what they wanted to do, all along. They use the pain they've felt, to mask the joy. They forget all the good things too, and focus on the bad. They live most of their time in the past. Not knowing that in this very moment, they're making new pasts. They live each day frustrated and grow restless.
We've all seen it. We've all been there at one time or another. It's the saddest thing and it's not our place to place judgment on why they may be acting the way they do or feeling the way they do. It's not our responsibility either, to save everyone who appears to be wounded - only they can do that.
How you help people in the World is...you live your life and amplify and exude the opposite of what I just listed. So, they too, they too can have a choice and they too, can see it being done. And they too, can have it rub off on them. The way to influence people in living a life more authentic to them is you doing that.
So now close your eyes and think to yourself...10 years from now, 20 years from now...
Is that person going to be you? That bitter, resentful, sad, hurt person?
You have the power today to make a choice. To choose who you grow into and to choose alignment before you even get to the hustle. Because a lot of people who are hustling are doing it for the wrong things. You have the power to show up how you want and even if you aren't your ideal self yet, you know you'll grow into it by acting and doing and thinking in the ways that are conducive to becoming that person, that you've been all along inside. And you know what? It's not fake and it's not inauthentic. It's living into your highest self.
And with conducting yourself in how your highest self would behave, think, do and act, you become it. You narrow the gap between who you are and who you want to be. And the most unhappiness lies within the gap. If it feels weird or fake at first or contrived, it's because that's the struggle to grow into what you already are. Don't fight it. It's the process and the journey. And the hardest thing to do in the World is to be true to yourself, but it's also the most important thing to do in the World. It's growth. It's the process. It's what's necessary to get you there. Stop focusing on how hard it is and start focusing on how much harder it will be to swallow, what you'll see later on if you don't be what you want to be.
We don't see consequences of what we're doing every day right away. Because if we did, it would be too easy, right? It takes a certain type of person to step outside themselves and see the big picture. We're always taught how to reach goals but we're never really taught how to make them, how to choose them...really think for ourselves what we want to do, how we want to be remembered, and what we want to do for others, society and at large, the World. Don't steal from yourself, your potential. Give. And, by giving to yourself just enough comfort to be yourself, you start your own mini revolution each time you meet another person. And they start to think, maybe, just maybe, they too can realize their dreams and be themselves.
It's a lot easier to do what you love than it is to not. It's letting go of who you've been and pushing through to become who you know you've always wanted to be and who you are, but never had the courage to let it out.
It's the dream or the idea or the person locked up since teenage-hood, since the trauma, since the bad choices, since he left you, since she cheated, since the car accident, since you got hurt...
Don't allow things to jade you based solely on your personal experience. Step outside of yourself for a moment. Unlock the shackles because you're the only one who holds the key. Go out into the World and do what you're meant to do. And that may change through time to time. And, that's okay. There are no rules to this thing we call life and there aren't any shortcuts to becoming who you've wanted to be - in achieving your personal legend, but there are longer routes. So don't walk down the paths that take you astray. Stay on path, get focused, get in alignment, get serious...
because before you know it, your chance will be gone.
Sending you BIG love today & always!
My whole heart, ♡
The Happiness Approach Podcast
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In this podcast episode, I share with something a little bit different for my Monday podcasts - different but, important. I share a more poetic and raw approach as to why being true to ourselves is the most important thing we could ever do!
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Today's QT's: Quote-ables & Takeaways from today's podcast episode & blog ↴
“Our lives are just a multitude of days.”
“Sometimes it can feel like the hardest thing to be ourselves. But you know what's harder? Living a life that's not authentic to you.”
“Staying true to ourselves is the most heroic thing we could do.”
“There aren't any short cuts, but there are longer routes.”
“At this very moment, we're making new pasts.”
“Narrowing the gap between who we are and who we want to be is where all happiness and unhappiness lies.”