Having a Winning Mindset and Growth Mindset - The Difference Between Winners & Losers

There are some distinct difference between a "losing" and "winning" mindset or mentality. Having a growth mindset and a winning way of living drives performance and results.

Today I want to talk about perspectives and a winning mindset versus sometimes a losing mindset and how perspective drives our performance and our results.

Perspective and mindset is everything.

When it comes to our performance and our results, it plays a major role.

You look at people who are achieving so much, who are successful, who are happy, who are not that kind of stressed out success, but the genuinely happy success. It's because their mindset and their perspective is on point. It's because they see things as challenges to overcome, because they're optimistic, because they have faith and hope and confidence within themselves. Because they're seeing things in the right way and they're dealing with things in their mind in the right way and putting out fourth good things into the World!

The difference between a winning and losing mindset can be very little, but it's distinct and it's incredibly important.

I always like to think of the example of Michael Phelps (he's a very famous swimmer) and below is a photo I found of him during one of his races. Notice how he is completely fixated on his destination. He's looking straight ahead while he's swimming, and then you look at his competitor beside him that's looking at Michael Phelps swimming instead of focusing on the end goal. This is of course a moment captured in time with not much context attached to it, it could've been that that was the only time the competitor was looking and perhaps at other times Michael Phelps looked over. Who knows. Regardless, no judgement on the competitor in this photo but it definitely captures a thousand words in the winning mindset and frame.

If you want to get ahead in life and win more often, you have to have something called destination fixation. This is when you fixate on where you want to go, not on who's around you or your competition. Destination fixation is the idea that wherever you are fixated is where you will end up. A good example is think of riding a bike. If you're riding a bike and you fixate on the rocks on the side of the road, you soon will find your bike swerving towards them. If you look straight ahead, your bike will stay straight.


I remember when Lupita Nyong'o did an interview and she was talking about how she landed her role for Patsey in the movie 12 Years A Slave. She talked about how she didn't want to know how many people tried out for the role because sometimes ignorance is bliss! We tend to get in our heads about a lot of things, so in many cases just focusing on what you are going to do and becoming a better you or performing at your best instead of competing with anybody else is a big win! That's really what differentiates winners and "losers" (hate using that word as a label, but I hope you know what I mean). It's the mentality and mindset.

Now, the difference between a winning mindset and a losing mindset also lies within how winners tend to look at novel or new situations and challenges.

Winners see it and say: "Hmmm, never done this before, but, I'll figure it out and look into it." Then, they research it, build a plan, and figure out how they are going to achieve such a thing.

"Losing" mentality see it and say: "Hmmm, never done this before, I could never do that!" Or, they stop right after "never done this before."

The differentiation factor is that winners believe in themselves to figure it out and they have confidence that they eventually can become competent enough to do that thing or to reach for that goal or to overcome the obstacle. Now, the confidence-competence loop is very famous in Psychology for a reason. They go hand-in-hand. but for a reason.

We are really truly headed where we're focused and energy flows where our focus goes. I also want to encourage you in this blog post to be so busy working on your own grass that you don't notice if someone else's is greener.

You know what I'm talking about. It's the difference between the talkers and the doers and the people who just completely stop when something new comes into their lives. They completely block it out or they just don't want anything new to come from inside of them or within them outward because of a self-limiting belief, mindset, self-sabotage or lack of confidence or victimhood mentality. We've all been there at some point in our lives, but I know you've met other people as well. It's the people who don't take that next step beyond that novel or new thing or idea versus the people who do and it's so sad, isn't it? Because all of us are meant for greatness and to do amazing things and none of us are more capable than the other. It's in the mindset, practice, dedication and discipline.

If you can have confidence within yourself to figure it out, to focus on your destination instead of everyone around you (of course know your competition, know your numbers), but if you focus solely on the competition, you're self-sabotaging yourself.

Side note on competition: A lot of the time when there's competition, be happy because that means there's a demographic or a group of people that love it, that love the industry or the thing that you're trying to do and working towards. Competition often means that there's a higher demand for that product or that service! I highly recommend partnerships and collaborations rather than competing because teamwork makes the dream work. We can achieve so much more when we work together, than when we do things alone.

All in all, at the end of the day, it's about belief within yourself and it's about being someone who looks at something and says, why not me? If they could do it, why can't I? It's asking yourself, why not? I think that's the biggest takeaway. That comes from confidence and belief within yourself and you really have to believe that if someone else has done it, you can too.


Sending you BIG love today & always! 

My whole heart, ♡


Hi! I'm Pooja,

A multi-passionate entrepreneur, coach and unwavering optimist committed to helping you become your best self yet.

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“The only person you should be competing with is who you were yesterday.”


“Energy flows where our attention goes.”


“Destination fixation is crucial in getting to where we want to go.”


“Be so busy working on your own grass to ever notice if someone else’s grass is greener.”


“Winners focus on winning, losers focus on winners.”


“Ask yourself, why not me? If they can do it, you can too. Have belief and confidence within yourself to figure things out.”